Thicker than Water.

“Blood is thicker than water.” is a well-known saying in any culture. It is widely accepted. If it is true, why is it so? Is it purely biological or psychological? Something we learned to accept it?

In my experience, it is ture that it is much easier to end a non-biological relationship after some dispute or sour experience. I have moved on without the individual in my life. Sometimes when I look back, I often wished that we overcame the negative experience and reconciled.

On the contrary, with biological relationships, even after I realize that it is a toxic relationship or has red flags all over the places indicating dysfunction, it seems very difficult to end the relationship. The dysfunction keeps coming back and hard to stop the vicious cycle.

Unless it threatens one’s life or safey, simply ending a relationship seems like an easy escape of the problem.

What would be the wise response? I often ask my self. What I learned is that first I try to look back and see a pattern. Then, I can recognize any negative behaviors or dysfunctions. It helps me not to repeat it or to avoid the situation before it gets ugly.

“Overcome evil with good.” which is a biblical teaching (Romans 12:21). But, that does not mean to continue to be a helpless victim of a dyfunctional relationship. It is a tough balance. What is your response to unhealthy relationship?